The Value of Friendship

by Brenda Diggs

Not long ago, I saw the letters “BFF” written together in a text message to someone.  Since I don’t text, I had no clue what it meant.  After admitting my ignorance, I learned that “BFF” stands for Best Friends Forever.

With the advent of social media, specifically Facebook, “friend” has become a generic term that is used very loosely in our culture. Almost everyone is plugged in, but are we really connected?

A 2006 Washington Post article entitled, “Social Isolation Growing in U.S.”, cites the findings of a study that states “Americans are far more isolated today than they were twenty years ago; and that very few people feel they have anyone they can confide in.”

One definition for friend is “favored companion.”  In ages past, God, in His infinite wisdom, put His stamp of approval on friendship when He said in Genesis 2:18, “it is not good that man should be alone…” I know you’re thinking – that’s referring to marriage – and you are right. But, when you take a closer look, shouldn’t you consider your spouse your “favored companion”, in other words, your closest friend?

In fact, Alan Loy McGinnis, pastor and author says that “friendship is the model for all intimate encounters.”  The best Biblical model of a true friendship was that of Jonathan (son of King Saul) and David.  First Samuel 18:1-4 (NLT) gives the account of what happened after David killed the giant Goliath and was taken to see the King:

“After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond between them, for Jonathan loved David. From that day on Saul kept David with him and wouldn’t let him return home. And Jonathan made a solemn pact (covenant) with David, because he loved him as he loved himself.   Jonathan sealed the pact by taking off his robe and giving it to David, together with his tunic, sword, bow, and belt.”

Jonathan’s actions exemplified the truism that you can give without loving, but that you can not love without giving.  The foundation of a genuine friendship is built on trust and the value of friendship rests on the pillars of affection, respect, shared interests, laughter, honesty, and loyalty.

For those who may not be aware, there is One who died so that He could be your BFF, your Best Friend Forever.  His name is Jesus, the Christ.  Hear what He says in John 15:12-15 (NLT):

This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me.”

Make Jesus your BFF today.

A native North Carolinian, Brenda hold a degree in Religious Studies with a concentration in Christian Education. She is a passionate Bible Teacher, Conference/Retreat Speaker, Community Advocate, and Former Public Relations Practitioner. She is a member of Unity Free Will Baptist Church in Greenville, N.C.

TAKE THE POLL ON THE RIGHT!  If Jesus was on Facebook today, would you send Him a Friend request or would you wait for Him to send you a request first?   

2 thoughts on “The Value of Friendship

  1. We do use the term friend without considering how much value is placed on the meaning. In the Middle East during the time of Jesus, if you broke bread with someone that was the same as saying you were friends. That’s why what Judas did was considered betrayal. He broke bread with Jesus for 3yrs. This is a clear example that we have to be wise about who we call our friends/soul ties that we agree to. If Jesus could be betrayed, so can we. Your friend is supposed to love you.

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