by Sharman J. Monroe
The whole congregation of the Israelites [grew discontented and] murmured and rebelled against Moses and Aaron in the wilderness, and the Israelites said to them, “Would that we had died by the hand of the Lord in the land of Egypt, when we sat by the pots of meat and ate bread until we were full; for you have brought us out into this wilderness to kill this entire assembly with hunger.” Exodus 16:2-3 (AMP)
The children of Israel cried out to the God for help during the 400 years they were slaves in Egypt. God used Moses to deliver them from Pharaoh and, after a while, Pharaoh let them go. They witnessed God part the Red Sea and walked through it on dry land on their way to the Promised Land. When they reached the other side, they were finally free of Egypt forever! And what did they do? Every time things got difficult on their way to the Promised Land, they murmured and complained and lamented.
In today’s times, we act like the Israelites. We ask God for something (more patience, more time with Him, deliverance, etc.). When He starts us on our way to it but it’s not the cakewalk we expected, we murmur and complain. In other words, we have a pity party hoping to get God’s attention so He will do another something to make everything easy. Sometimes we invite others to our party. Unfortunately, pity parties don’t get God’s attention. Why? Because pity parties aren’t based on the Truth. Specifically:
- a pity part is all about “me”. The root of a pity party is pride. It focuses solely on “me” (woe is me, I need, I want, I don’t have, look at me) and separates us from others, which is contrary to the Word. Proverbs 18:1 (AMP) teaches, “He who [willfully] separates himself [from God and man] seeks his own desire, He quarrels against all sound wisdom.”
- a pity party says God is a liar, which is contrary to the Word. Numbers 23:19 (NJKV) says, “God is not a man, that He should lie, nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good?”
- a pity party says I don’t see anything happening so I don’t believe which is acting contrary to the Word. We are not to function based upon what we see or don’t see. Second Corinthians 5:7 instructs, “For we walk by faith, not by sight [living our lives in a manner consistent with our confident belief in God’s promises].”
- a pity party says I don’t believe God can handle this situation. The Word let’s us know that God is omniscient, omnipresent and omnipotent (Psalm 139:1-16) and that He can do “superabundantly more than all that we dare ask or think [infinitely beyond our greatest prayers, hopes, or dreams]” Ephesians 3:20 (AMP).
- a pity party says I don’t trust God. The Word directs us to trust God because He is the same yesterday and today and forever (Hebrews 13:8), He doesn’t lie (Numbers 23:19), He is for us (Romans 8:28, 31-32), He has good plans for us (Jeremiah 29:11) and He loves us unconditionally (Romans 8:38). Moreover, when we trust Him, He delivers (Psalm 37:40; Jeremiah 39:18).
- a pity party says I don’t believe that the Word applies to me. Acts 10:34-36 (MSG), however, teaches, “It’s God’s own truth, nothing could be plainer: God plays no favorites! It makes no difference who you are or where you’re from—if you want God and are ready to do as he says, the door is open. The Message he sent to the children of Israel—that through Jesus Christ everything is being put together again—well, he’s doing it everywhere, among everyone.”
- a pity party says I chose to believe what Satan is telling me. The Word tells us plainly that Satan is “a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it” John 8:44 (NKJV) [emphasis added].
Clearly, pity parties don’t get God’s attention because they are not in line with His Word and they don’t bring glory to Him. In fact, He considers them sin and rebellion (Deuteronomy 9:6). As for the Israelites, God not only ignored their pity parties (yes, they had several), but He also led them through the wilderness for forty years as a penalty for their parties before He allowed them to enter the Promised Land although the usual time for such a journey was eleven days (Deuteronomy 1).
When things get difficult and life isn’t a cakewalk, holding a pity party is not the way to go. Instead of murmuring and complaining, do what the Word says—have a praise party and invite everyone!!
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NJKV) [emphasis added].