by Latricia C. Bailey

Whatever state I find, myself in, I’ve learned how to be secure knowing that God will supply all my needs and will work things out for my good. It will get better . . . God is in control.”

This is the song that keeps playing in my spirit and reminds me of God’s Word in Philippians 4:11 that talks about being content in whatever state I find myself in because God is always in control. The song is in my spirit because we sang it in church during the Installation/Consecration Service earlier this year. It was a great worship service, and the new Chair of the Prince Georges Baptist Association is off the chain for God! He preached from Psalms 119:133, which tells about the Lord directing or ordering our steps in His Word, and to let no iniquity have dominion over us. God is the one who orders our steps, and we need to have ordered steps in Christ, not be like “Chicken Little”, being scared at every little whim or falling apart every time something happens.

The song, Better, also reminds me of being better and content even when my “state” is as an offender. It is easy to be the one who was offended by someone else, but what happens when you are the one who offended someone else? How do you remain content in this state? It is an embarrassing, frustrating, isolated, and lonely place to be in. Sometimes it feels stifling. People can take the position of feeling guilty about offending someone or others, or they can take the position of dismissing it as something the victim should just get over. Another position is to stay neutral and do nothing. Well, the Word of God tells us that we are not to stay or walk in condemnation . . . ever.  Romans 8:1 (NKJV) says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Moreover, 1 John 3:20 (ESV) says, “For whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and He knows everything.”

Sometimes we get stuck in being upset or in beating ourselves up for offending others. But God sent us Jesus to remind us that: “he does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities” (Psalm 103:10 ESV). Instead He is the One “who blots out your transgressions (your offense) for My (His) own sake, and I (He) will not remember your sins” (Isaiah 43:25 NKJV, author’s translation).


If the loving Creator of the universe and Controller of all things can forgive and forget all our sins, then why should we keep remembering them? There is no need or reason to stay stuck in a place of being an offender or a victim forever. It is not biblical, unnecessary, and a waste of life. Each one of us is called to love and forgive no matter whether you are victim or offender. Every breath of life feeds off your decision to do both. Don’t stay stuck in an offense. Be quick to resolve it and move forward in God’s Word. I promise you things will get better. God is in control.

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances . . . through him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:11-13 NIV).

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